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We love to care about the people who are close to us. We try to avoid their problems as much as possible. They may be our family members or our friends. If we experienced life more than them, then we try to show them a better path out of which we traveled till now. From our side, we put maximum efforts to fill their life with joy. But sometimes such pure heart thoughts may get rejected by our loved ones. It fills our mind with the anger thinking that they are neglecting us. Just because some person not accepted our advice, there creates a wall in between us. May is this reason separated many people who were best friends and maintained good relationships with each other. 
Whether expecting good for others is wrong? Or
Trying to help others is wrong?
Think, how can anybody neglect the words of a person who is very much close to them and who love them very much. I know, we gave our 100% genuinely but our 100% maybe 60% for others. Whatever you may know but your view towards their problem is different from the person who is suffering that. 
Helping people is good but your help should not become an addiction for your loved ones. Everyone has unimaginable abilities and unimaginable thoughts. Why make our thoughts as a boundary for any person. Indirectly we are suppressing their abilities. Well, we can fight together sometimes but it will not work every time. Some situations make us helpless so that we are unable to give our shoulders to others. Nature will give such challenges like; we must face this fight alone. Let them fight their battles. If they win or lose, nothing matters, in the end, they will get the lesson. 
Remember those days when you are trying to learn bicycle riding. Maybe your father, mother, brother or sister helped you to learn it.
Think for a second, what they did with you?
They used to hold you from the back of the cycle and after some days when they knew you learned cycling, they released their hands. Although you believed that somebody was holding your cycle and you keep peddling to move forward. That’s how you learned to cycle. You may fall many times and you may injure many times, but that pain is not a pain for you. If your parents are not left their hands, it is impossible to learn to cycle till now.
So, the lesson is if you want to help your loved ones then give strength that can make them fight on their own. But be that belief for them that you are always behind their back. They need trust and freedom. Attachment towards any person is OK but it should not trouble both people.
Birds can teach something to their chicks and that something is to fly over their problems. 

Thank you for your time,


Blackvillan said…
Feel free to share your thoughts and please share this to your loved ones.
Chandan said…
Good one. Thank you for sharing this.
Blackvillan said…
Thank you Chandan.
Anonymous said…
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Blackvillan said…
Thank you friend. Have a great day.
Newtan said…
Awesome post my friend.
Blackvillan said…
Thank you friend.

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