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How to Deal with Difficult People

How to Deal with Difficult People

You may be living a happy life and you may be in the path of achieving, what you are dreamed of. You may be working hard for that and trying some new things every day. Even though you believe in what you are doing but people will say different things. Some may blame you, some may criticize you and some may advise you to quit what you are doing. At some point, you will doubt yourself. The joy when you started your work will not remain the same. Your confidence is now occupied by fear and your decisions will be blind. 

Then, How to Deal with Difficult People?

Let me share with you some incidents. My friends and I were watching a cricket match at my home. At that time the situation of the match is like this, bowlers were in the upper hand, and batsmen were struggling to get runs. We were five members watching that match and five different opinions were wondering in that room. We were commenting on each ball of the match. 

Let me share some of those comments,

Comment 1: “For this ball, he would have played reverse sweep”.

Comment 2: “It was an easy ball; he would have hit it for six”.

Comment 3: “Batsmen simply wasting balls”.

These were OK, but the fun part is when my grandfather entered that room. He knows nothing about that game, and he observed that match for some time. 

After that, he asked me one question like this, “Why he is playing in the left hand?” 

I replied, “Grandpa, he is a left-hander”.
Then guess what, my grandfather replied to me with a huge smile on his face like this, “That’s why he is not hitting the ball hard. He should have used his right hand. The right hand has more strength than the left hand”. With this suggestion, he left our room. 


Come on, don’t blame us. We all tried our level best to advise that batsman who is playing Live on TV. The best part is he will not listen to us. All of the above advice is wise according to us. Those are the best knowledge till now we gathered. But the reality is different. What is right for me and what works for me is not the same for all. The fact is those were the best batsmen from the country and if they are struggling then what about us.

This situation happens in real life also, but don’t forget you are the best batsman of your life. Nobody can play better than you. Stop listening to people's words because these words have no meaning in your life. You know what is better in you and bring that out. 

If you are a beginner in your field then surely those words can hurt you. But there is a way to overcome this and that is to gain knowledge about your field as much as possible. How depth is your knowledge and that much confidence you will gain. Nothing matters, whether it is stories of success or failures. The wise will learn from both. 

Sorry, I can’t say like this, “You should neglect all the advice and find your way”. But take that advice, blames and criticizes with you to a calm place. Think about that advice. If they are worth it for you, if they bring meaning for you and, if they tell about your weakness then accept them. All successful people did this; they filled all of their patches like this only. But if that advice does not apply for you then there is no reason for worry. You don’t know people’s opinion always changes.

Why can’t we think like this, nature will challenge us and tests our patience. It checks our mental confidence before rewarding us something and this is a fact. If not people then some other thing will be in front of us, to make us better. 

Maybe you are ‘Zero’ for the whole world but it doesn’t matter and what you think about yourself matters a lot. If the question is from the outside world then don’t try to find the answer outside. The answer is within you.

Thank you for your time, 


Blackvillan said…
Fell free to share your thoughts and please share this to your loved ones.
John said…
You guys out there are performing a great job. Thanks for sharing this.
Blackvillan said…
Thank you John.
Dave said…
Works well. I like the article.
Blackvillan said…
Thank you so much Dave.
Newtan said…
Absolutely, when you do work people in comfort zone pass negative comments. So, don't pay attention to them and keep engaged 9n your work, gain in depth knowledge and much more.
Also, accept the the weaknesses if an intelligent and experienced person point it out.
Blackvillan said…
Thank you for your suggestions friend.

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